Susan M. Pava Therapy

For times when life gets messy.

Life’s path is rarely a straight one. Our life story is seldom linear, what we expect, and almost always is complex. These are the times we need a helping hand.

Life is Messy

We all experience stressful periods. Times of major life transitions disrupt our equilibrium and ability to cope effectively given new situations and circumstances. We can experience anxious or depressed moods, changes in our daily habits, feel overwhelmed or on the verge of panic. We may no longer enjoy the things we used to, the activities, tasks and friends we once held dear. We may notice changes in our sleeping and eating habits and even engage in reckless and dangerous behavior.

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In the middle of the journey of our life
I found myself within a dark woods
Where the straight way was lost.

– Dante Alighieri

The Only Constant In Life Is Change

Whether we want it or not, change happens every second of every day. There’s no way to stop it, prevent it, or avoid it; we simply must accept it as a given and release the struggle. We don’t have to agree or even like it, but accept we must.

To be human is to be fallible and yet still lovable.

We have complicated feelings and thoughts about transitions. Yet there’s no growth without pain. That’s just reality. Only the dead feel nothing.

I’d Love to Help

I haven’t a clue how my story will end, but that’s all right. When you set out on a journey and night covers the road, that’s when you discover the stars.

– Nancy Willard

My Approach & Philosophy

We live in a world that is ever changing. Change is an inevitable part of life. How we accept this truth (embrace it or resist it) determines how well we navigate the twists and turns life brings.

I long for a time when mental health issues are seen less as a failure/stigma and more as a personal journey. Psychotherapy gives us an opportunity to examine our values and an awareness of the resilience we never knew we had. If we envision the experience more as a Hero’s Journey and less as a Loser’s, we may find ourselves in a more authentic and transcendent place.

I practice an eclectic mixture of therapies, including: Behavioral Therapies (REBT, CBT, and DBT) and Systemic (Solution Focus, Gottman, Bowen, Structural). It’s my firm belief that mindfulness is paramount, both in psychotherapy and in daily living.


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Mental Health, Divorce and the Courts
Mental Health, Divorce and the Courts

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Divorcing a Narcissist – Part II
Divorcing a Narcissist – Part II

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Divorcing a Narcissist, Part I
Divorcing a Narcissist, Part I

If you thought getting divorced from your typical disgruntled spouse is fraught with nail-biting, weight-loss and hair falling out, you’ve never divorced a Narcissist.

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