Divorce Recovery  Psychotherapy

It’s not what you’ve lost… It’s what you’ve found.

Susan M. Pava

In the middle of the journey of our life

I found myself within a dark woods

Where the straight way was lost.

– Dante Alighieri

An Experienced Divorce Psychotherapist

Getting divorced is filled with emotional pitfalls and challenges that can be difficult to navigate alone. That’s why I’m proud to be a divorce therapist providing individuals with the divorce counseling they need, including post-divorce therapy. No matter your state of mind at the time of divorce, talking to a divorce recovery therapist can help you heal from the experience and get the insight you need to better yourself. The time after the divorce is new territory for many people and requires careful reflection to rebuild your life and feel confident in yourself. I serve clients nationwide and locally in Westchester County and NYC.

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Virtual or In-Person

We live in unique and challenging times. There’s no shame in seeking help, only empowerment. We can schedule both in-person or virtual, online sessions. Your needs are paramount.

Group Therapy

Often it helps to talk with others experiencing similar challenges. Small groups are available to help process emotions, share experiences and resources, and find camaraderie during a very stressful period.

Free Consultation

There’s no downside to reaching out. Set up an appointment to find out if we’re a good fit.

Confidentiality

Your privacy is of utmost importance for us. We follow strict HIPPA guidelines. Your information is private and will remain so.

Get Through to the Other Side

Even though divorce can be devastating, there’s the hope of a better life on the other side. When you schedule an appointment for post-divorce counseling close to Westchester County or NYC, I will work with you to understand the complex array of emotions you feel. I’ve been through a divorce myself and wished I had a psychotherapist who specializes in divorce counseling. I know what you’re going through and work hard to help you build a better life on the other side of divorce. Schedule time with a divorce recovery therapist today!

Susan Pava, LMFT

We all have a story. I’m no different. It’s about what we learn in the writing of our story and what we do with it that matters. Are we courageous enough to accept it and look ahead? Or hell-bent on fighting it and remaining the same?

In my mind, there’s only one choice. To do the hard, uncomfortable work. It’s my goal to provide support during this challenging time, just like I needed when going through my divorce. It can be helpful to talk to someone who has experienced the same thing and came through safely on the other side.

There’s no shame in needing a helping hand. We can get through this together!

I’d Love to Help

I haven’t a clue how my story will end, but that’s all right. When you set out on a journey and night covers the road, that’s when you discover the stars.

– Nancy Willard

My Approach & Philosophy

We live in a world that is ever changing. Change is an inevitable part of life. How we accept this truth (embrace it or resist it) determines how well we navigate the twists and turns life brings.

I long for a time when mental health issues are seen less as a failure/stigma and more as a personal journey. Psychotherapy gives us an opportunity to examine our values and an awareness of the resilience we never knew we had. If we envision the experience more as a Hero’s Journey and less as a Loser’s, we may find ourselves in a more authentic and transcendent place.

I practice an eclectic mixture of therapies, including: Behavioral Therapies (REBT, CBT, and DBT) and Systemic (Solution Focus, Gottman, Bowen, Structural). It’s my firm belief that mindfulness is paramount, both in psychotherapy and in daily living.

Resources

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Mental Health, Divorce and the Courts
Mental Health, Divorce and the Courts

Why is it you can get married in a matter of minutes yet to divorce it takes months to years? I know you probably think it’s due to the behavior of the participants — the fighting, the threatening, the need to come out on top, but I believe that’s just half of the story and there’s something more sinister afoot.

Divorcing a Narcissist – Part II
Divorcing a Narcissist – Part II

In Part I of “Divorcing A Narcissist” I describe the character traits of an individual diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. As a reminder, these are people who have an overblown sense of importance, lack empathy and compassion, are manipulative, fantasize...

Divorcing a Narcissist, Part I
Divorcing a Narcissist, Part I

If you thought getting divorced from your typical disgruntled spouse is fraught with nail-biting, weight-loss and hair falling out, you’ve never divorced a Narcissist.

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Location

White Plains, NY 10601

Hours

Tue - Fri: 9am - 7pm