Divorce Recovery  Psychotherapy

It’s not what you’ve lost… It’s what you’ve found.

Susan M. Pava

In the middle of the journey of our life

I found myself within a dark woods

Where the straight way was lost.

– Dante Alighieri


As you experience the overwhelming and often frightening process of divorce, I’ll be your guide. I’ve been there and understand the emotional and often traumatic toll it takes getting through. You’re not alone. We can do this together.

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Virtual or In-Person

We live in unique and challenging times. There’s no shame in seeking help, only empowerment. We can schedule both in-person or virtual, online sessions. Your needs are paramount.

Group Therapy

Often it helps to talk with others experiencing similar challenges. Small groups are available to help process emotions, share experiences and resources, and find camaraderie during a very stressful period.

Free Consultation

There’s no downside to reaching out. Set up an appointment to find out if we’re a good fit.


Your privacy is of utmost importance for us. We follow strict HIPPA guidelines. Your information is private and will remain so. 

Susan Pava, LMFT

We all have a story. Personal and all our own. I’m no different. It’s about what we learn in the writing of our story and what we do with it that matters. Are we courageous enough to accept it and look ahead? Or hell-bent on fighting it and remaining the same?

In my mind there’s only one choice. To do the hard, uncomfortable work. It’s my goal to help others through this time as I’d wished someone had helped me. Someone who’d been in my shoes and gotten to the end of the chapter.

There are times we need a helping hand. This is one of them.

I’d Love to Help

I haven’t a clue how my story will end, but that’s all right. When you set out on a journey and night covers the road, that’s when you discover the stars.

– Nancy Willard

My Approach & Philosophy

We live in a world that is ever changing. Change is an inevitable part of life. How we accept this truth (embrace it or resist it) determines how well we navigate the twists and turns life brings.

I long for a time when mental health issues are seen less as a failure/stigma and more as a personal journey. Psychotherapy gives us an opportunity to examine our values and an awareness of the resilience we never knew we had. If we envision the experience more as a Hero’s Journey and less as a Loser’s, we may find ourselves in a more authentic and transcendent place.

I practice an eclectic mixture of therapies, including: Behavioral Therapies (REBT, CBT, and DBT) and Systemic (Solution Focus, Gottman, Bowen, Structural). It’s my firm belief that mindfulness is paramount, both in psychotherapy and in daily living.


You don’t need to start your search from scratch! Check our full list of resources. We continue to update this page as new & better resources are identified.

Mental Health, Divorce and the Courts
Mental Health, Divorce and the Courts

Why is it you can get married in a matter of minutes yet to divorce it takes months to years? I know you probably think it’s due to the behavior of the participants — the fighting, the threatening, the need to come out on top, but I believe that’s just half of the story and there’s something more sinister afoot.

Divorcing a Narcissist – Part II
Divorcing a Narcissist – Part II

In Part I of “Divorcing A Narcissist” I describe the character traits of an individual diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. As a reminder, these are people who have an overblown sense of importance, lack empathy and compassion, are manipulative, fantasize...

Divorcing a Narcissist, Part I
Divorcing a Narcissist, Part I

If you thought getting divorced from your typical disgruntled spouse is fraught with nail-biting, weight-loss and hair falling out, you’ve never divorced a Narcissist.

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