About Therapy

You’ve landed here for a reason.

Your life is out of whack, and you’re not feeling like yourself.

If you’re suffering, that means you’re not accepting whatever pain you’re feeling. I know you don’t want to deal with this stuff, the psychological drama that seems to rule your life these days.

It feels like a Fascist dictator is living inside your head telling you what you should be doing and who you need to be, or maybe it’s that old bully you know so well, taking up space in your mind, poking at you, calling you a loser, an unlovable fool, blaming you. “That’s why things never work out, you don’t fit in!”

Avoidance is your answer.

So once again, you pick up your phone and immediately start scrolling on TikTok to soothe yourself in a world of distractions, reeling you in until you’ve lost an hour or two.

And if it’s not TikTok, then it’s video games, or grabbing another handful of whatever and mindlessly eating, or maybe you’re drinking more than usual, a second and perhaps even a third glass of wine, or pulling away from friends and the people you care most about.

This stuff in our minds can be overwhelming, and here’s the crazy thing: it’s not even reality. You can’t escape the storm in your head – the challenging thoughts that come and go, the scary stories you tell yourself, the feelings that punch you in the gut and send your heart racing into overdrive.

The way out is unclear.

You know the old saying, “Wherever you go, there you are.” There’s no way out, no matter how much effort you give. It’s like you’re trying to dig yourself out of a hole you’ve fallen into through no fault of your own, and all you have is a backpack full of shovels.

Here’s the thing: the more you tell yourself you can’t have these incredibly bothersome, scary thoughts and feelings, the more you get them. Yep, that’s how our minds work.

The harder you try to escape, the deeper you sink into the hole. Something’s not working, and I know it’s not for lack of trying. I think it’s time to try something different.

And that’s where I come in.

I do what I do, helping people because I was once one of those ‘people.’ I’ve been through many upheavals in my life, including a scorched earth, a litigious divorce from a malignant narcissist, the loss of my mother when on the threshold of adulthood, and being a breast cancer survivor.

This was a life different from what I expected. So, it’s important to me to help others in the way I wanted help and honestly couldn’t find it. I desperately wanted to hear that I’m no different, that even my therapist has problems. I wanted reassurance that there was ‘nothing wrong with me.’

My challenges were typical. So, when you choose to see me for therapy, I often share a piece of my story so you can see that life isn’t smooth sailing for us all the time.

We all experience periods in our lives that feel like the world’s about to blow up. We all fear moments of uncertainty, and we all believe things shouldn’t be this way, yet they are.

And then the magic happens.

We grow and harness the pain, the fear, and the upset and listen to what it’s telling us that matters in our lives. We set a new course and venture forward. The way I see it, we don’t have a choice. Our lives only go around once, and no one can regain time.

Do you want your epitaph to read, “She spent a lifetime struggling with her demons, avoiding everything she held dear, distracting herself in order not to feel.”

Here, therapy is not about feeling better. It’s about getting better at feeling!

I collaborate with you to help you overcome what is keeping you down!