Divorce and Toxic Relationships

It’s always a battle.

The fighting gets personal, and you’re both looking for the “bad guy.” Nothing ever gets resolved because you don’t like each other anymore. It’s simply about winning.

You both feel angry and unheard.

Talking past each other and failing to understand or appreciate a different viewpoint seems impossible.

Ten years is a long time to be unhappy. And you’ve been married for 12. You wonder if you were ever happy.

They’re not there for you.

Every time you reach out to make a bid for a connection, you’re immediately shut down. Like there’s something wrong with you. Or what you have to say isn’t of any value.

Holding hands, let alone any other kind of intimacy, stopped years ago.

There’s no warmth anymore. You do things for one another begrudgingly – never with a genuine smile.

Nothing is working.

You question why the two of you are doing this while thinking about your friends and their marriages. Half of them are happy; the other half are miserable.

Maybe nothing works because neither of you wants it to.

All you know is that you can’t take what feels abusive anymore.

The judgments are beginning to take a toll on you.

You have forgotten what it feels like to be happy.

Life is too short to spend too much time unhappy. You wonder when you last had a deep belly laugh with tears streaming down.

Any feelings of joy left long ago. What’s left is unbearable.

You notice other couples on the street chatting, smiling at one another, or walking arm in arm. You feel like crying.

There’s another life waiting for you.

Let me help you find peace. I’ve been where you are and know firsthand what works and what doesn’t when you’re looking to divorce or are already in the process.

Divorce is hard. And I know you can do it. You likely feel like a deer in the headlights, unaware of how to turn.

I’ll guide you through the divorce process and provide you with the skills necessary for daily turbulence. We’ll also examine your values and use them to guide you to a life you choose, not one you’re stuck with. In addition, I can help you go through the decision-making process as you determine your next move.

When you are contemplating divorce or struggling with a toxic relationship, therapy is a better option than trying to navigate these challenging situations alone. I am here to walk beside you during this time in your life.

Please get in touch with me for more information on how I can help.