Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapy

Here’s how it all started.

When you arrive home from work, another flower delivery is waiting. No one has ever lavished this kind of attention on you. “Could this be the One?” you think excitedly.

Life feels magical. The birds are singing, the sun is shining, and all is right in the world.

It’s hard to believe you have so much in common. Finally, you have found the right person. You pinch yourself to think you no longer have to tag along with your friends as a third wheel.

“What have I done wrong?”

Something happened. You don’t understand and can’t seem to do anything right. Gone is the flattery, the attention, and the pedestal you were on.

“Who is this person?” You don’t recognize them anymore.

You no longer receive the same frequency of calls and texts as you used to, and it takes hours before you get a response.

This lack of attention makes you feel like you don’t matter.

Now, you feel like a crazy person.

The charisma and charm are gone. Instead, it’s sneering and condescension.

Canceling at the last minute or disappearing for a few days makes you feel like you are being tested. You tell yourself you’re overthinking things.

Some of your friends think you should break up, while others encourage you to stay and work it out. You’re confused.

“It’s not bad all the time,” you think, but it’s bad enough that you begin to doubt yourself.

The goal is to keep you off-balance.

Without knowing it, you’re being tested, devalued, and discarded. Next comes the torture stage. Let the gaslighting and invalidation begin.

It’s all about control.

In reality, narcissists are self-loathing. The need is to belittle and denigrate you so they feel better about themselves.

They’re grandiose, entitled, contemptuous, and lack empathy.

It’s not you – it’s them.

Let me help you heal from an abusive relationship and give you the skills to thrive in your life moving forward.

We’ll discuss ways to set better boundaries, develop self-compassion, and then examine the vulnerabilities that made you a target. You’ll learn skills to keep you present and engaged and to accept things as they are, not as you want them to be.

This has been a challenging ordeal that’s taken a toll. Stop beating yourself up. It’s not your fault!

Time waits for no one. Reach out now. I’ve been where you are, and I know the way forward.